The Bastardism of MSN
Tonight I have no inspiring poetry to write so I've decided to discuss something else that has come to my attention after spending hours and hours sitting on a computer and using msn messenger as basically my only means of communication.
The first and foremost thing I have noticed is that I am always the one initiating conversations, with the exception of my good buddy Nate. I have no problems being the initiator of a conversation most of the time but being the initiator nearly 100% of the time soon makes one wonder whether or not they are being a nuisance or the person they are saying hello to even wants to speak to you at all. The problem that has arisen when I've asked several different people about this has produced rather similar answers.
Most of the feedback I have gotten is from people of the opposite sex and the answer most have given me and the rest I have just inferred is that as much as they may want to talk to a certain individual they won't say hello out of fear that they are being bothersome. That response is similar to my initial thoughts except my worry comes from whether I initiate conversations to much and theirs comes from not even starting them at all.
So first off, my belief that is if you are signed into messenger or any other IM service then you accept the fact that people are going to start talking to you, even if you are on away or busy, if you can't accept this fact then why did you even sign into messenger. Now that's not to say I won't respect people who if I say hello to when their status is set to something other than online and they respond to me saying they are busy then I will totally respect that and politely stop talking to them.
Now that I have established the fact that if you are signed in that it means you are willing to accept people talking to you, this means that you girls and guys who really want to talk to somebody but don't want to be bothersome just SAY hello and if the person is not able to talk to you then most likely they will let you know that it is not the best time, but they now know that you want to talk to them; or you may be presently surprised and find that the individual appreciates you starting the conversation rather than them initiating the conversation 100% of the time.
Therefore, if those who never say hello begin to say hello; the people who are always initiating the conversations will not have to worry that they are being bothersome and annoying for saying hello too much. While the non-hello people will be surprised at how many more conversations they will actually have with those people they want to talk to but are afraid to initiate a conversation with.
The first and foremost thing I have noticed is that I am always the one initiating conversations, with the exception of my good buddy Nate. I have no problems being the initiator of a conversation most of the time but being the initiator nearly 100% of the time soon makes one wonder whether or not they are being a nuisance or the person they are saying hello to even wants to speak to you at all. The problem that has arisen when I've asked several different people about this has produced rather similar answers.
Most of the feedback I have gotten is from people of the opposite sex and the answer most have given me and the rest I have just inferred is that as much as they may want to talk to a certain individual they won't say hello out of fear that they are being bothersome. That response is similar to my initial thoughts except my worry comes from whether I initiate conversations to much and theirs comes from not even starting them at all.
So first off, my belief that is if you are signed into messenger or any other IM service then you accept the fact that people are going to start talking to you, even if you are on away or busy, if you can't accept this fact then why did you even sign into messenger. Now that's not to say I won't respect people who if I say hello to when their status is set to something other than online and they respond to me saying they are busy then I will totally respect that and politely stop talking to them.
Now that I have established the fact that if you are signed in that it means you are willing to accept people talking to you, this means that you girls and guys who really want to talk to somebody but don't want to be bothersome just SAY hello and if the person is not able to talk to you then most likely they will let you know that it is not the best time, but they now know that you want to talk to them; or you may be presently surprised and find that the individual appreciates you starting the conversation rather than them initiating the conversation 100% of the time.
Therefore, if those who never say hello begin to say hello; the people who are always initiating the conversations will not have to worry that they are being bothersome and annoying for saying hello too much. While the non-hello people will be surprised at how many more conversations they will actually have with those people they want to talk to but are afraid to initiate a conversation with.
